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Why Most People Fail When They Try To Completely Change Their Life

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Here’s the thing about change:

Where most people go wrong is they try to change everything at once.

I am going to give you a challenge:

First, I want you to write down your ideal day.

Write down, from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed, what your “ideal day” would look like. Chances are, that “ideal day” is, in general, how you’d like to live your life all the time.

After you’ve written out your ideal day (and you’re all excited about how amazing that looks), I want you to write down next to each item the thing that is currently preventing you from doing that.

If you say that every morning you want to go for a run between 6 am and 7 am, then I want you to write down what is keeping you from doing that right now.

Maybe you stay up too late and can’t wake up early.

Maybe you get distracted in the morning by your phone.

Whatever it is, write it down.

Once you have that second list, you’ll see how many “bad habits” are currently in place, making it difficult for you to live your life the way you want.

Looking back at that “ideal day,” you now see all the little things you’ll need to shift in order to make that a reality.

The mistake most people make is they try to change every bad habit at once.

They promise, to themselves and everyone around them, “That’s it! I’m going to bed early! I’m eating healthy! I’m not using social media! I’m reading every morning! I’m scheduling all my meetings for the afternoon! And it’s all happening right now!”

Look, it’s not going to all happen right now — and that’s OK.

If you succeed there, add another habit to the mix.

Do that for another 30 days.

And so on.

Change happens both slowly and rapidly.

It is the massive compounding of tiny daily actions.

Map out your current “bad” habits and figure out what you need to change on a granular level that will ladder up to the “big changes” in your life.

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